BIRTH OF FIRST LOVE

 What is it? How do you express it, much less define it? The universal theory of love, relationships, and lust have been on the minds of people since the beginning of time. How do you explain it?  Dickinson, a poet of the 19TH century, described love as "An anterior to life". Many theorists and researchers, as well as the common BOY or GIRL, have their own definition of love. Explanations, experiments, and all types of opinions have been offered on over and why.

According to  a theorist from the mid-twentieth century, early adulthood (ages 19-35) is a time of intimacy vs. isolation. Erikson argues that during the later years of adolescence and early adulthood, individuals must develop the ability to form deep, intimate relationships with other people. This theory is not directed specifically toward sexual intimacy, but toward forming long-lasting emotional bonds with another person. Erikson also said that people that do not form these long-lasting relationships will live their lives in loneliness or isolation.

No matter what one is looking for, there are typically things in a relationship that are challenging. Love does not come easy, it takes a significant amount of work. Whether it is love at first sight, love after two months or ten years, there are thousands of ways that people fall in love. Although people are trying to explain, predict, and even control love, it seems love finds a way to take over our lives and no matter what, it will always exist.
There are scientific ways to define love, but there are also society's stereotypes of the way things should be. For instance, for some people love is happiness, and for some love is misery, and sometimes love is both. But for many young adults, love brings happiness, companionship, and togetherness. It isn't always fun, and love doesn't always have a happy ending, but it all seems to be for the best. For many young adults in this day in age, love is the building block for the rest of their lives.

KISS CHRONOLOGY

KISS is regarded as one of the most influential rock and roll bands of all-time. Their career milestones are staggering. KISS holds honors as one of America's top gold record champions, recording 37 albums over 36 years selling over 100 million albums worldwide.


Over thirty years of record-breaking tours around the globe include high-profile appearances at Super Bowl XXXIII, the 2002 Winter Olympics in Salt Lake City, the 2005 Rockin' The Corps concert dedicated to our troops in Iraq and Afghanistan, and most recently, the 2009 American Idols Finale before thirty million views.


The KISS legacy continues to grow, generation after generation, transcending age, race and creed. The unparalleled devotion and loyalty of the KISS Army to the "Hottest Band in the World" is a striking testament to the band's unbreakable bond 

June 1973 - KISS records a five-song demo tape with producer Eddie Kramer, which winds up in the hands of former teen pop singer and Buddah Records executive Neil Bogart. August 1973 - After a handful of showcase concerts in the summer of 1973, former TV director Bill Aucoin is hired to become the band's manager. With the help of Aucoin, KISS becomes the first act signed to Bogart's new label, Casablanca Records.  October 10, 1973 - The band enters Bell Sound Studios in New York City and begins recording their first album. February 3, 1995 - KISS stages the first Official Worldwide KISS Convention in Perth, Australia. The unique and revolutionary KISS Convention tour of 1995 features a traveling KISS Museum displaying vintage KISS stage outfits, instruments, and memorabilia. Performances by KISS tribute bands, KISS collectors/dealers buying, selling and trading KISS merchandise, precludes an evening appearance by KISS themselves, appearing live and in person, conducting a question and answer session, autograph signing, and a two-hour unplugged set comprised mostly of spontaneous fan requests.  March, 1995 - KISS publishes and releases its own 9-pound, 440 page coffee table book,KISSTORY. June 17, 1995 - Former KISS drummer Peter Criss visits the first North American KISS Convention in Los Angeles with his daughter. Peter joins the band onstage singing KISS classics Hard Luck Woman and Nothin' to Lose.

LOVE&SEX IS THE KEY TO LEAD HAPPY MARRIAGE LIFE

LOVE&SEX IS THE KEY

Gene Simmons says having a wife who is a ”Madonna in the kitchen and a w***e in the bedroom” is the key to a happy marriage.
Gene Simmons believes the key to a happy marriage is a healthy sex life.
The KISS bass player tied the knot with his girlfriend of 28 years, Shannon Tweed, in October despite previously claiming he would never marry and Gene admitted it is the couple’s wild antics in the bedroom that have kept them together for so long.
He told Hollyscoop.com: “Romance is interesting, but somebody much more prolific than I am put it better; she should be a Madonna in the kitchen and a w***e in the bedroom. That’s pretty accurate.”
Shannon’s advice is “Keep having sex in different ways. Try to think of something new.”
Gene also revealed the couple’s two children Nick, 22, and Sophie, 19, are not phased by their parents’ prolific lovemaking and just leave the house when they hear the “noise from upstairs”.

He said: “Thank god the children are grown up. As soon as they hear noise form upstairs they leave the house. That’s good.”
Gene – who claims to have slept with over 2,000 women – proposed to Shannon while they were on holiday in Belize in July 2011.
As he got down on one knee, he told her: “I come with so much baggage, but you’re the only friend I’ve got, you’re the only one I’ve ever loved, you’re the only one I love, and the only one I ever will love.
“I’ve never said those words to anybody, and I don’t ever wanna. It’s funny, they used to watch movies where they say I can’t live without you but for me it’s true.”

EARLYPASSION BEING SINGLE

The single years have always been something of a paradox. paradox

People who are starting to take on responsibilities of adulthood also feel entitled to be young and irresponsible. They see their parents' routine and commitments as stifling but envy the perks that go with that lifestyle. They love the freedom of flying solo and still long for someone to share their lives with.

Today's popular culture creates even greater paradoxes for singles:

People who could go anywhere and do anything often feel paralyzed and unable to fully embrace a choice because it would mean not keeping their options open.

They're seeking a near perfect mate who can love them for who they are but find it difficult to give themselves on those terms to another person.

They seek extreme adventures but often find it too risky to ask someone out on a date or interview for a competitive job.

These paradoxes can keep singles in a holding pattern. Knowing that the "world is your oyster," it feels restricting to settle down into one specific life path. Knowing that this may be your one best shot at fun and freedom, you're careful about taking on obligations and letting people have expectations of you. Knowing the risks of marriage, you want to hold out for the best possible opportunity.

While there can be a certain thrill in that holding pattern for a while, it can start to feel like the college graduate who is still hanging out on campus trying to keep the magic alive. Eventually, the tension of the paradoxes brings many singles back to their deeper desires for purpose, significance and companionship and they find that while they once saw commitment, risk and sacrifice as barriers to those goals, they now know they're actually the paths.

Flexing your commitment muscles by completing educational pursuits, being faithful in entry-level jobs and serving within a church body can dramatically change what you get out of this prime season. That preparation can also make the commitment of marriage less daunting and more fulfilling.

The single years are both special and crucial. At Boundless, our passion is to meet you at the point of paradox and help you face this wide-open season of opportunities with the love, wisdom and strength of a boundless God.

Do You Have a Friendgirl?

whatever you wish to call it — but this time with a charge specifically to men. He begins by describing a conversation he had with a young guy who was spending lots of time with a girl he had no intention of dating.

He's like so many young men who are "just friends" with single, young women who believe the relationship might actually be going somewhere. At best, these guys are unwittingly part of a relationship that deceptively looks like a good deal for both parties. At worst, they’re willfully blind to the ways they feed a relationship that largely just benefits them.

So in a way, it's a classic case of friends with benefits, only in the cases Rogers is referring to, the benefits stop short of the sexual variety. Which is maybe why Christian guys think these pseudo relationships are OK. But Rogers goes on:

If you're one of these guys, it’s time for a wake-up call. It’s time to recognize that there’s something more important at stake here than your convenient relationship with your friendgirl. What’s at stake is her heart.

He then provides a helpful checklist for discovering if you have a friendgirl:

You might have a friendgirl if you're friends with a woman you never intend to marry and . . .

• You know she’s interested, but you figure that as long as you don’t kiss her, she will understand that the relationship is platonic.
• People ask if you're dating her, and you act surprised every time.
• You've had to sheepishly explain that she's "like a sister" to you.
• You think that defining the relationship means passively aggressively hinting that you’re not into her.
• When she calls you, you hang out with her if it's convenient.
• When you call her, she drops everything to be with you.
• You justify continuing to hang out with her — despite being uninterested — because, well, you never know, maybe an attraction will eventually develop.

Having experienced being the friendgirl, that list made me cringe. There's a lot of great food for thought in this article, but the bottom line for men with a friendgirl? Rogers says either make her your girlfriend or break up with her. She deserves a man who will actually pursue her — not someone who's biding his time until the woman he really wants comes along. Like I said, tough truth to handle. But truth nonetheless.